Claiming she's "obviously using birth control" could be very hurtful. Anon I was wondering the samething. It was clearly Michelle's rules and some of the girls although they said it was their choice really wanted a different dress code and lifestyle. They were probably told by Michelle to say it was their choice and convictions. I wore skirts as a teen. It honored my parents plus at the time I too believed it was more modest.
As I grew older, I changed my views. Anything can be immodest. It depends on how you wear it. When the daughters were teenagers, it became their own conviction like their book said. But now that they are adults, they've re-examined those passages in the Bible and have interpreted it their own way, and some of them have decided that wearing pants is ok.
I've changed a lot of my thinking since I was a teenager. I think the family is nothing like who they were portraying themselves to be on tv. I don't think they are any different then any other reality family and the older kids are proving that. There's a definite difference between a "belief" and a "personal conviction". A conviction from God is a no- go on whatever the issue is. It is in effect, God saying to the individual"Do Not [do whatever the issue is]".
It is pretty specific. As a young Christian who hadn't been saved long,growing up in a modern household, I "believed" in modesty. I felt somewhat conspicuous wearing my teeny bikini and my cheerleading skirt in public, but liked the attention it got me.
Then came the day my Pastor taught on sexual sin, and how both men and women often tempted each other with their clothing and behavior, how neither loved the other and had their best interest at heart when they were encouraging the other to sin and using the other person. I felt personally convicted, as I was definitely doing that and didn't want to "show off my body" nor put ideas into a guy's head he didn't need and I had no business encouraging.
No never means yes. Beliefs change; convictions don't. That's how they were raised. Now that they are out of the house and married, adults, their views have changed. Actually, convictions can change. What's right for one season may not be right for another. A young woman may feel convicted to obey house rules when living with her parents, but convicted to follow where the Lord leads her when off on her own or married.
They can lead their own lives and have their own way of doing things while still being upstanding Godly people. I am glad that Jinger and some of the others feel comfortable doing things their own way. I look at it a little different then you do. I for one don't have problem with someone reinventing themselves like she did but the problem I have is when you have a book for sale that you wrote as a young adult not a child about the why's of dressing a certain way and how it is so important and how it is such a strong conviction of yours and then we see them same people walking around in pink dyed hair and skinny jeans and blouses they once said weren't modest and your book is still for sale, well that's a problem.
I wouldn't be ok as a Mom with my daughter's making money off a book that says one thing and my daughter's are doing the polar opposite. I would have told my daughter's to get the book off the market since it is showing such hypocrisy in their lives and is now a negative reflection on the family.
Michelle is just fine with this but what about our girls who paid for and read that book? She wrote that book years ago, and people change. You change as you grow. I read that book too and the heart of the book is building solid relationships with those around you, not whether or not you wear pants. I see it as a sign of maturity that the girls can keep their core values while figuring out how they might live a bit differently from their parents. Anon I agree with you and I find that is one of the biggest problems I run into when witnessing to non Christians, is them seeing people who call themselves Christians saying one thing and then doing something else.
That really has to stop in the Christian community. I will add one more thing and that is you do not become less modest as you get a little older, but as a Christian you see more of the importance of the need to be modest. They have since become adults with their own families. They have spouses who influence their thinking plus their own experiences.
Just because some of them choose to wear pants now does not mean that everything in the book is invalid. There are a lot of books for sale when people have changed their opinions on different topics as they have grown and learned more. And while the girls were not children when they wrote the books, they might as well have been living in the environment that they were in. I see no reason for the girls to pull the books from shelves as 1; no one is forced to buy them 2; there were still SOME good tidbits of advice in the books very few, but some and 3; we can read the books at look at how far the girls have come.
The books still being on the selves does not show hypocrisy on the girls part, it shows growth, and that after they left home they were finally able to think for themselves as adults.
If they sold books and spoke at seminars on modest dressing then completely changed their minds, then all the money they made doing that should be refunded. Changed their minds about pants but didn't change their minds about taking money?
How important are dresses vs pants in the full scope of life Let's say when you were twenty you went to church A Now your beliefs and convictions have changed and today you attend church B Is any 20 something qualified to write a book directing others We are morphing and changing constantly The older girls did wear leggings under their skirts and dresses. Check out some of the older episodes you'll see.
If it's such a simple, easy thing and there was "no problem", why has it taken them this long to acknowledge it? This makes zero sense. Continuing to find fault makes zero sense, imho. May God Bless the Duggar family. So, she feels homeschooling is the right choice for them on Bringing Up Bates. And John Webber agrees. Bringing Up Bates fundamentalist Fundie Alyssa Bates Webber chooses to dress differently than the other women in her family.
Skip to content. I agree with your point on vanity. It seems these "reality" shows have made the participants very vain. Dressing up and posing for pictures just because many young women do, is not a reason to do it. Goodness there is not a thing wrong with skinny jeans or shorter skirts I wear both and I do believe I am a good Christian, well as good as any one can be But what's the point of going skinny jeans and shorter skirts? If you can argue that then why not argue about the opposite?
What's the point? Not fashionable enough for you? Yes please read your bible. In that case, please provide the scriptural reference for the short skirts you are referring to. It seems like people are trying to enforce man made rules rather than stay true to God's word. The Bible calls for dressing modestly and the Bates women do that.
Their clothes aren't too tight or revealing. They aren't eye catching or provocative. Their beliefs, actions, and the way they treat others glorifies God. Rebuking young women for wearing slightly shorter skirts while still following modest guidelines goes against what Jesus calls us to do.
They aren't sinning and Kelly and Gil don't seem to have a problem with the way they dress. Take care of your own home and let them take care of theirs. Relying on legalism to measure one's Godliness or spirituality becomes a vicious stew of self-righteous condemnation and judgment, in my experience. Look to the hearts of people, not their hemlines.
I think as the girls have become adults, there parents have let them have a little more freedom with the way they dress. I think Josie and Carlin will probably dress like Alyssa and Whitney once they leave their parents home. I think they are trying to be respectful but will eventually choose different standards for themselves. Thanks for leaving your comments! Our aim is to post all points of view, but we do not post anything that is profane, insulting, derogatory, or in poor taste.
Sunday, May 20, Bates Boyfriends. Hope you are having an enjoyable weekend. The courting Bates couples sure are! Stewarts' church family celebrates the first Sunday in their new building. Email This BlogThis! Anonymous May 20, at PM. I wouldn't wear those skinny jeans or the tight leggings. I dont care what she wears. I love her and the whole Bates family. I feel like they are an encouragement and inspiration to all who watch them or come in contact with them.
I'm a Christian and have never been convicted not to wear pants and I'm 61 years old modest clothes. But I love the show and what it is telling families. I was in a church years ago that tried to push dresses and no makeup for women and girls all it did was push people away.
God's looking for people willing to go reach more people not fight about cloths. I have 4 girls we adopted we watch the show all the time because it teaches get principles.
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