A bit of a change up- not a Bridezilla, but a Groomzilla. A friend of my father was remarrying, it was both his and the bride's second time around, both in their early forties, and an arranged marriage think Indian orthodox Muslim stuff.
The guy was an utter groomzilla. He demanded that every event be at top-notch hotels with obscenely expensive catering and hired string quartets and what not for the entertainment. Mostly paid out of the bride's family's pocket, I might add.
The parties on the nights leading up to the main wedding event were opportunity enough for him to make a rather public ss of himself, talking at the top of his voice and showboating the entire time. But the kicker came the next day when the bride was missing from her own wedding's reception. Obviously, it was very odd and conspicuous, and the few relatives from her side made some noncommittal excuses about her not feeling well, etc. Turns out, this guy had divorced the poor woman right after he'd had his wedding night fun.
He said that he 'didn't like her enough' and that's an almost literal quote. So he gave her the triple divorce thing, and that was it. The marriage was officially over before the festivities even ended. My buddy married a bridezilla. She was a bridezilla long before the wedding, and they had dated for about 7 years. I have no idea how they are doing.
I just kind of stopped talking to him a few years after she claimed I ruined his birthday by remaining sober. I had driven 5 hours to be at his birthday. My cousin was married to one. He comes from a very not wealthy area, and has become successful himself after moving out of his hometown. His wife was extremely wealthy, even could say excessively.
They married after a year of knowing each other, and boy was it a surprise to hear about the wedding plans. Their food was from different cultures and cooked in front of you think almost hibachi buffet style. They even had servers in tailed suits and white gloves serving taco bell after midnight once everyone was drunk. Once they got married, she was spending more money than he could make. She was getting mad because he wasn't making enough, while she wasn't working and they hadn't had kids.
They got divorced, and she gave him the ultimatum of getting his ring back or keeping the dog. He kept the dog. Her sister, a lawyer, helped her file a restraining order on him and they haven't spoken since. Man did he dodge a bullet.
She left me three months later. After the wedding and vacation was over I told her we need to pay the debt we just accumulated. She said she didn't have much on her credit card and could pay it off in a couple of months if I picked up some of her bills.
I agreed and three months later she had her credit card paid off she told me she wanted a divorce. We had a budget for the wedding and should have had no debt at the end but in the last few weeks before the wedding she suddenly had to spend a ton of money on wedding stuff I had never even heard of before.
And when I say she spent a ton of money it came out of my pocket. According to my MiL I'm the bridezilla. We had a max limit of 36 people including ourselves and my son.
My Mil gave me a guest list which included - you guessed it! I felt gross by that and left the decision up to my husband since it was his family. Needless to say, they all got invites. I had asked for RSVPs to be given a few months before the wedding. Since the MiL had used up all of the guest list I had greatly reduced my side of the guest list to 4 people, with some on hold until I knew the exact numbers. She said she would work on it and get back to me.
A week before the wedding she said one family also needs to bring 9 other people because they were going on a family trip and our town was on the way so they would all be here anyway.
I flat out said no and called her out on the BS. I cut off the guest list, said that I was inviting the rest of my guest list and that whoever hadn't RSVP'd didn't get a chair or plate.
Right up to the day of the wedding they were making changes. We got married at a Chinese buffet so that it would be the simplest planning and everyone would have something that they liked to eat. We had a Dairy Queen ice cream cake for the wedding cake. Married a groomzilla. We are talking costume changes between wedding and reception, yelling at the wedding planner, drag-out-all-night fights about whether we can add fruit kabobs so people would maybe get enough to eat, all that.
There was zero compromise; he made a lot of promises for things I had been wanting after the wedding and they never materialized, like a beach vacation and such. Turns out, no compromise at the wedding meant no compromise anywhere else, so I left him after four years of marriage. I married a bridezilla. He is a lovely sweet thoughtful man but boy did he lose it surrounding the wedding. I could have been married with about three special people there. As far as I was concerned we could eat off paper plates and napkins and have a big bonfire to burn them afterward.
He needed personalized moist towelettes. You get the point. He is a lovely person and I love him dearly but I will never marry him again. My brother married a bridezilla. She yelled at my mother the day of for asking her where she wanted certain decorations at the reception site there wasn't a written plan so my mom had nothing to go off of.
Never thanked my parents for financially contributing to the wedding. The most valuable preparation for your wedding is getting ready for married life itself, not having the ultimate "Martha Stewart wedding. Remember, your real-life marriage is not the wedding. And preparation for the wedding must include preparation for your marriage. No shade of green, no type of flowers and no flavour of cake will give you a great marriage, no matter how perfectly "Martha Stewart" your wedding day is.
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We recommend. More from Focus. Battling your inner Bridezilla Written by Matthea Schumpelt. Themes covered Marriage Investing in us Faith and marriage Engagement. Brides were routinely asked to do things over again "with more drama," said Melissa from season seven. Porsha said filming for Bridezillas was exhausting. Brides are already stressed because of preparations for their big day, but the camera crews following her around for 12 hours a day with people telling her "go back, say this over, do this over," just amplified her exhaustion.
She said one of the requests she got from the directors was for her to curse more. And although she was pretty happy with her episode, she said it was severely edited to include a lot more footage of her cursing people out. Her biggest complaint was that they showed her feet on camera. The show might have been about women berating and attacking their closest friends and family members, but it wasn't all hair pulling and teeth gnashing.
Friendships were formed between former Zillas. Porsha said she's befriended several former brides, but her best friend from the show is Minyon , the bride from season nine who fought her sister and angrily cut up her mother's dress for the wedding.
Nine years after the first bridal freakout, WE tv renewed Bridezillas for its 10th and final season. In the works was a spin-off series called Marriage Boot Camp , a show aimed at saving the marriages of former Bridezillas couples. Boot Camp was designed to bring the seemingly doomed marriages of the Bridezillas back together.
Melissa from season seven said she agreed to be on the show, but was sadly disappointed in their motives. Jim and Elizabeth Carroll were hired on as the hosts of Marriage Boot Camp , the Bridezillas spin-off designed at healing the marriages of the broken Bridezillas.
The couple was beloved by the cast, and Porsha said her biggest complaint was not being able to speak with them off camera. The couple weren't just show ponies, either.
The program they used on the show is based on a real-life intense marriage-building seminar program called Marriage Boot Camp run by the Carrolls. But Melissa from season seven said what people saw on the show wasn't an accurate representation of the program Jim and Elizabeth run. She felt like the producers wanted to put the couples in crazy situations, like the episode where they tried, unsuccessfully, to coax Melissa into a casket , just to amp up the drama.
Not all Zilla's bad behavior went unpunished. Bride Karee Gibson Hart was jailed for two days for violating her probation when she violently threatened her mother-in-law and set her bridesmaid's shoes on fire.
Viewers took to the internet to voice their opinions on the bride's bad behavior. Porsha told me she ignored the majority of her hate mail, but some of the attacks really got to her. She said one night she and a group of Zillas got on the phone and were talking about how they felt about the show, and they were all in tears. Still, not all the publicity was bad. Porsha told me she had celebrities like Coco tweeting her to say she should have her own show. Although she's currently working as a training coordinator, Porsha says she would still love to work in the entertainment industry.
SavannahDare Hall of Fame. Jul 23, 15, 82 NW Florida. I don't understand it either, but then again I've never gotten too overly excited about any wedding - including my own. He made it happen. I picked out and bought my wedding dress in less than three hours.
Chose our cake within half an hour of sitting down at the tasting. I only got frustrated on the day of the ceremony when the hurricane that passed offshore the day before danced a jig and came back!
In my opinion, weddings should not be events to cause undue stress or hard feelings, and no bride-to-be should be acting a fool whether she's on tv or not. Ldlane Hall of Fame.
Nov 26, 14, We went to the Courthouse in Tallahassee and have been married 16 glorious years. Got a gift pack from the State Tide detergent, fabric softner, etc Don't understand the big deal around the ceremony. Jan 25, 2, 78 72 Arab, AL. I can't even watch the commercials for Bridezilla much less watch the show. They ought to get them all together, drop a box of wedding dresses in the middle of I in Houston or other big interstate in a big city during rush hour and say fetch.
Bamaro Hall of Fame. They are thinking with the wrong part of their body. Hamilton Suspended. Dec 5, 2, 1 0 Hamilton bama. Bamaro said:. DiamondDust Hall of Fame. May 1, 15, 7 0 Tuscaloosa, Alabama, United States www. I work in the wedding industry, and I must say I've been fortunate enough to have never had to deal with a bridezilla.
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